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Sam and his Elephant


The J-man never had a "lovey" or any specific toy or blanket or anything that he was totally attached to. We even tried to get him attached to different things to help him with transitions, but he would have nothing to do with it. So I've never directly experienced a child's attachment to a lovey before.

When the babies were born, one of Seth's coworkers gave us the cutest little baby blankies with these little stuffed animals on them. A blue elephant for Sam, and pink bunnies for the girls. They were an Avon product, which Seth knew because his coworker is an Avon Rep, and has been for years. They were adorable, but I didn't think much of them other than the fact that they were cute. After all, we received a lot of cute little things like that when the babies were born, and you never know which things your kids will become attached to later, do you?
There's this adorable little dog that Sam was given that I've been trying to get him attached to, because it's so cute, but no dice.

As it happens, now, a year later, Sam will not put that elephant down. He carries it everywhere. He will not let go of it for anything. I loves that blankie. The girls like their bunnies just fine, but they aren't attached to them in nearly the same way, they just like them the same way they like any of the other lovey-type toys they have. But Sam - he loves that blankie. He won't go to sleep without it. He wakes up looking for it. He walks around with it. He holds it close. He wants it whereever he is.

Well, you know this has left me petrified that he will lose it. Or wear it out (it's rather disgusting right now and I can't wrestle it away from him to wash it). And I just am so worried that he will accept no substitute! (Truthfully, he'll take the bunnies as substitutes perfectly fine, but he DOES prefer the elephant)

So I started searching Avon's website, and while I do like Avon a lot, I have to say, their search engine on their site sucks and their categories of products aren't so helpful. But! Miraculously! I found the blankies! They are called Rock-A-Bye Baby Blankies:

Avon Rockabye Blankies

You can not imagine my glee upon finally finding these blankies! Because, boy are we going to need a couple extra elephants! (We're good on bunnies, but elephants? I don't know, would it be overreacting to buy a dozen?)

I've already sent off an email to Seth's coworker asking if we can order a couple extra elephants from her, and letting her know exactly how in love with it Sam is. Otherwise, I'll happily order them directly from Avon's website. Because although a parent can never predict which of the myriad of gifts we receive will become THE toy that our children get so attached to, we certainly can stock up once the attachment happens!

And now for your Lovey 101:

Don't make the same mistake that many parents make and just keep a brand new back-up lovey in the closet for when the inevitable happens. As soon as I receive my back up loveys, I'm going to give one to Sam and wash the old one. Then when it comes time to wash the one he's got, I'll give him the other new one, and wash the one that he'd had. Then I'll start evenly rotating them in and out so that they are all equally good and worn - because otherwise, he will come to favor one over the others, and THAT completely defeats the purpose!

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cahwyguy From: cahwyguy Date: November 24th, 2008 04:39 am (UTC) (Link)
nsshere had four loveys. They were all blankets in the same pattern. The first she wore out the binding on, so we made a second. That had a slight different binding, and she never accepted it. We made a third with the same binding as the first, but it never had the same feel. There was a fourth, but I forget how that differed. Anyway, on a long road trip it got left behind at a hotel. We called, but they never found it. A few bad days, and she got over it.

Of course, at 14 she still has one, but this time it is a full tropical print quilt!
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: November 24th, 2008 03:04 pm (UTC) (Link)
That's why you've got to make them all at the same time, so they're all the same!

I'm *still* not over losing my beloved monkey, Minkey, in Frankfurt.
yeishlitikvah From: yeishlitikvah Date: November 24th, 2008 04:45 am (UTC) (Link)
those are soo cute.

At least Sam has good taste in a lovey.

I have a blue plastic bunny from Avon that I have had since I was at least 2 or 3.

I had a set of sibilings back to back in my clas the past two years. A boy and a girl there about 18 months apart. They are both attached to blankies. The girl is content with almost any blanket. The older child, the boy is attached to only certain blankets and will not sleep with otu and will proceed to freak out even for a classroom nap.

Apparently his 'lovey' at the age of 4.5 is a discontinued Carter's blanket. Mom had to buy a few of them off of ebay., Because this was the ONLY blanket he would use. Apparently he even schlepped it through the camp site, it was black at the end of a camp day. He even uses it as a shmatta

sorry for the babbling, but I was trying to give examples of how you are wise beyond your years to stock up now.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: November 24th, 2008 03:06 pm (UTC) (Link)
My girls, thankfully, aren't attached to anything in particular. Sam more than makes up for them. And it is ADORABLE that he's so attached to it, but I am having *nightmares* that he'll lose it!
happyduck1979 From: happyduck1979 Date: November 24th, 2008 11:34 am (UTC) (Link)
Channah's pooh bear, we only found out when we wanted to buy an extra as it was her best friend, was a limited editions collectors item. We have not even been able ot find the same on on ebay. I have looked and looked for 4 years now.

estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: November 24th, 2008 03:01 pm (UTC) (Link)
Oh no! So not okay!
ichur72 From: ichur72 Date: November 24th, 2008 12:03 pm (UTC) (Link)
Having no experience with lovies, I wil just say ... wow, he is cute.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: November 24th, 2008 03:02 pm (UTC) (Link)
isn't he awesome? He's SO yummy!
journeytoernie From: journeytoernie Date: November 24th, 2008 01:05 pm (UTC) (Link)
what a great picture!

levi had a quasi lovey that he had to sleep with, but didnt need to carry with him everywhere. i tried to get the boys to have something like that, but they, like j, wouldnt' have it.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: November 24th, 2008 03:03 pm (UTC) (Link)
frankly, it's easier if they're not super attached to something. But with J he had such a hard time with transitions, we thought it might help, but no luck.
journeytoernie From: journeytoernie Date: November 24th, 2008 03:39 pm (UTC) (Link)
yeah. i can understand that. with the boys though, they needed something to help with change. they didnt do change well. and still dont to a small extent.

levi needed to sleep with his "granky" or he'd freak out. he's ok now.
From: atimesif Date: November 25th, 2008 02:35 am (UTC) (Link)
Precious picture! It looks professional!

Thank g-d he has a presentable lovey.

My son has a yellow blanket he just became attached to - he's my first kid to have a lovey. I don't want to let him take it out of the house, although he tries sometimes. What's your policy?
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: November 25th, 2008 03:17 am (UTC) (Link)
Honestly, we don't go out of the house so often that it's such a big deal, and he's only recently started carrying it around constantly - it used to be that he only insisted on having it in his crib. My only REAL concern with him carrying it out of the house was him losing it, so I made him take one of the pink bunnies (since we had two of those) instead of the blue elephant with him. Now I'm not so sure I care, since I'll have back ups (I ordered the extras tonight).

He's one. I'm not sure I care if he's got a lovey with him in public. Should I?
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