The J-man never had a "lovey" or any specific toy or blanket or anything that he was totally attached to. We even tried to get him attached to different things to help him with transitions, but he would have nothing to do with it. So I've never directly experienced a child's attachment to a lovey before.
When the babies were born, one of Seth's coworkers gave us the cutest little baby blankies with these little stuffed animals on them. A blue elephant for Sam, and pink bunnies for the girls. They were an Avon product, which Seth knew because his coworker is an Avon Rep, and has been for years. They were adorable, but I didn't think much of them other than the fact that they were cute. After all, we received a lot of cute little things like that when the babies were born, and you never know which things your kids will become attached to later, do you?
There's this adorable little dog that Sam was given that I've been trying to get him attached to, because it's so cute, but no dice.
As it happens, now, a year later, Sam will not put that elephant down. He carries it everywhere. He will not let go of it for anything. I loves that blankie. The girls like their bunnies just fine, but they aren't attached to them in nearly the same way, they just like them the same way they like any of the other lovey-type toys they have. But Sam - he loves that blankie. He won't go to sleep without it. He wakes up looking for it. He walks around with it. He holds it close. He wants it whereever he is.
Well, you know this has left me petrified that he will lose it. Or wear it out (it's rather disgusting right now and I can't wrestle it away from him to wash it). And I just am so worried that he will accept no substitute! (Truthfully, he'll take the bunnies as substitutes perfectly fine, but he DOES prefer the elephant)
So I started searching Avon's website, and while I do like Avon a lot, I have to say, their search engine on their site sucks and their categories of products aren't so helpful. But! Miraculously! I found the blankies! They are called Rock-A-Bye Baby Blankies:
You can not imagine my glee upon finally finding these blankies! Because, boy are we going to need a couple extra elephants! (We're good on bunnies, but elephants? I don't know, would it be overreacting to buy a dozen?)
I've already sent off an email to Seth's coworker asking if we can order a couple extra elephants from her, and letting her know exactly how in love with it Sam is. Otherwise, I'll happily order them directly from Avon's website. Because although a parent can never predict which of the myriad of gifts we receive will become THE toy that our children get so attached to, we certainly can stock up once the attachment happens!
And now for your Lovey 101:
Don't make the same mistake that many parents make and just keep a brand new back-up lovey in the closet for when the inevitable happens. As soon as I receive my back up loveys, I'm going to give one to Sam and wash the old one. Then when it comes time to wash the one he's got, I'll give him the other new one, and wash the one that he'd had. Then I'll start evenly rotating them in and out so that they are all equally good and worn - because otherwise, he will come to favor one over the others, and THAT completely defeats the purpose!