Karen (estherchaya) wrote,


All it takes to get 80+ comments in my journal is to make one little triplet announcement! (admittedly, nearly half of those are my responses to comments)

Anyway, you guys are awesome. Here are some FAQs that I missed (the non-snarky version):

How are You Feeling?
I feel okay. Well, that's not true. I feel like hell, but in a good way. I'm very tired (UNBELIEVABLY, INDESCRIBABLY tired), which Seth can attest to, because a couple weeks ago he watched me almost fall asleep in a bowl of soup. I spent a long time throwing up, but the magic of Zofran made it all better. We love Zofran! Everything feels all out of whack... my hips are already completely screwy, it hurts to sit for too long, standing and walking are often impossible, laying down is my best option most of the time. But, it's all for a good cause, or so I hear, and I know that this isn't the worst it will be, so I'm trying to keep a sense of humor about it.

Are you showing?
Heck yes.

How much weight are you going to gain?
Come on, you know you want to ask it! It's the only time ever you get to ask a woman about her weight! Triplet moms are advised to gain 75-90 pounds, even if they were overweight to start. My doctor couldn't care less how many pounds I gain, as long as I'm getting a sufficient number of calories. I lost 15 pounds and have gained back 2 of them (but I keep re-losing those 2 pounds). So I haven't gained any weight, really, at this point. And I don't really care what I gain. I have carte blanche to eat all sorts of things that I normally wouldn't!

Edited to clarify: It is not my doctor who is suggesting at 75 pound weight gain. But a lot of triplet literature suggests weight gain of at least 70 pounds and up to 90. My doctor doesn't care if I don't gain a single pound, as long as I'm getting the calories and nutrition that I need. I don't expect to gain anywhere near 70 pounds, let alone 90.

Are you going to find out the sexes of the babies?
We don't plan to. The plan now is to allow that to remain a mystery. Apparently, I'm the only triplet mom-to-be that yesterday's sonographer has met who didn't want to know. I'm not really sure why, because seriously... our lives will be completely upside down come the Fall, whether they're boys, girls, or a mix of both. And honestly... there is just NOTHING normal about a triplet pregnancy. It would be nice to have one thing that we could just do the old fashioned way. I'm not entirely certain Seth agrees with me... but you know, it's my uterus. I kind of hold the key. :)

Is this an automatic ticket to a C-section?
Yep. It sure is. 90% of triplet pregnancies are delivered via c-section. I'm not being given an option, and I am not sure I'd want to risk having the option anyway. The only thing I'm mighty pissed off about is the needle in my spinal column. I'm not needlephobic, but I DO NOT WANT A NEEDLE IN MY SPINAL COLUMN. And you can all tell me how it's not as bad as I think it will be, but it won't help. I know it's not that bad. I know that lots of women do it without any problem. I know it's an irrational fear. But being irrational, rational reassurance isn't actually going to help. I certainly have accepted that I WILL be getting an epidural, but I definitely don't have to love the idea.

Where are you going to put them?
Uh, I was thinking they were doing just fine in my uterus, thankyouverymuch. Oh. You meant AFTER they're born. I imagine they'll spend some time in the NICU. After that, I hear the hospitals don't like to keep babies around for too long, so we'll have to take them home and then the hard part starts ("what do you mean, I have to parent them?? Wasn't the hard part growing them?"). Yeah. We've got a three bedroom house. Babies (especially preemies) are small. There is no good reason why we can't fit two adults, four kids, and two cats in a four bedroom house. We are spoiled Americans, but we are also pragmatic. We can't afford to move. We will simply give up our guest room.

Will you be a stay at home mom?
We can't afford for me to be a SAHM. So I will return to work at some point. "At some point" is as yet undefined, because we don't know whether the babies will spend any significant time in the NICU and what kind of care they will need and so on. I will note that working parents are still full-time parents. And I've not decided to "let someone else raise my children" just for my own convenience. I was thinking my kids might like to eat someday. there are lots of good arguments on both side of the fence on this one, but this is obviously not up for debate. I now am acquainted with a pretty large number of triplet moms and some of them work and some of them don't. They all make it work for them.

Does this mean you're done having kids?
Not necessarily. It's logical to think that, of course. And it would probably be financially most responsible to not have any more kids. But we're not willing to completely shut out the possibility of another child after these. One thing is clear... we certainly can't think that far in the future just yet! First we have to get these babies to September! So who knows?

There are more, but that's enough. Thanks everyone for all your kind words!
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