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My grandmother passed away yesterday at around 7:30 Texas time. My mother didn't call, presumably because it was Shabbos, and yet I'm irritated that she didn't, even though I wasn't even here when she would have called.

More to the point, I'm irritated because she doesn't think I should go to Texas for my grandmother's internment at Fort Sam Houston. "Oh no," she says, "it will probably be my father and me; just the two of us." Excuse me? My grandmother had three people left in her family, her husband, her daughter, and me. (well, also my brother, but he doesn't count) Why is it not okay for ME to be there?

Anyway, I'm sad that she's gone, but extremely relieved that her long struggle is over. At some point, I'll write a little bit about my grandmother.

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arosoff From: arosoff Date: August 6th, 2006 01:35 am (UTC) (Link)
Baruch Dayan ha'Emet--I'm sorry :(
As for your mother... hmm, maybe she thinks it's kinder on you by not forcing you to make such a long trip? :/
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: August 6th, 2006 02:05 am (UTC) (Link)
Yes, I'm sure that's exactly what she thought. I'm sure she meant nothing by it. Anyway, we've already worked it out, and she'll let me know when everything's happening. It's not a religious funeral, so it's not like it's happening tomorrow or anything. Probably mid-week.

Anyway, I'm really fine. I was really steamed about the implication that my presence wasn't required or even wanted, but I really am relieved that my grandmother isn't still suffering.
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estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: August 6th, 2006 02:05 am (UTC) (Link)
Thanks.

I heard you were sick this shabbos; are you feeling better?
goudagirl From: goudagirl Date: August 6th, 2006 01:38 am (UTC) (Link)
I'm sorry. if there is anything you need, let me know.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: August 6th, 2006 02:07 am (UTC) (Link)
Thanks. I'm okay. I was more peeved at my mother than anything. My grandmother has been on a steep decline for years, so I'd long since come to terms with losing her.
mrn613 From: mrn613 Date: August 6th, 2006 01:50 am (UTC) (Link)
so sorry about your grandma
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: August 6th, 2006 02:06 am (UTC) (Link)
Thanks. I appreciate it.
magid From: magid Date: August 6th, 2006 02:01 am (UTC) (Link)
Baruch Dayan Emet.

I got nothing about the rest of it, though; families can be such strange things...
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: August 6th, 2006 02:03 am (UTC) (Link)
yeah, well, my mom and I have already worked it out. I'm sure what she really meant to say was, "Sweetie, we'd love for you to be here, but we absolutely would understand if you couldn't make it and we're just going to do something private, so it's not like all of San Antonio will be scandalized if her granddaughter isn't there, so if you can't get out of work, or can't manage a flight out, we understand."

But it came out like "your presence doesn't matter, don't bother."
either_or From: either_or Date: August 6th, 2006 02:03 am (UTC) (Link)
i look forward to learning more about her. i hope things work out with your mom and the interment.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: August 6th, 2006 02:08 am (UTC) (Link)
Thanks. I'm a little horrified to discover that I really don't know all that much about her, but I certainly have enough of my own memories to relay.
mortuus From: mortuus Date: August 6th, 2006 02:19 am (UTC) (Link)
I'm sorry for your loss. *hugs*

Hopefully your mother was attempting to be thoughtful for you and just not realizing how you would feel.
zsero From: zsero Date: August 6th, 2006 02:21 am (UTC) (Link)
Internment? No matter what she did, surely they're not going to insist on locking her up for it, now that she's dead! Talk about cruel and unusual!

PS: :-) A light note at a dark time.

cleobatya From: cleobatya Date: August 6th, 2006 02:22 am (UTC) (Link)
im glad your grandmother isnt suffering anymore...i hope your grandfather and your fam are doing okk...
archgirl06 From: archgirl06 Date: August 6th, 2006 02:24 am (UTC) (Link)
=/

I hope you feel better soon.
ichur72 From: ichur72 Date: August 6th, 2006 02:27 am (UTC) (Link)
So sorry to hear the news, but glad to hear you've worked it out with your mother.
hopeness From: hopeness Date: August 6th, 2006 02:36 am (UTC) (Link)
So sorry to hear the news.
yarbiedoll From: yarbiedoll Date: August 6th, 2006 02:43 am (UTC) (Link)
*hugs*
zis770 From: zis770 Date: August 6th, 2006 02:51 am (UTC) (Link)
Baruch Dayan haEmes, and I also wanted to add that I'm happy things worked out with your mother. I definitely relate with communication problems and mothers!
indigodove From: indigodove Date: August 6th, 2006 03:00 am (UTC) (Link)
I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm glad that you take comfort in knowing that her struggle is over. Thinking of you & your family.
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