March 14th, 2004

Family May 2012

cat sneezes

Is it possible for a cat to have a cold? Charlie keeps sneezing. A lot. And he also keeps sounding like he's trying to blow his nose. And he looks kind of miserable. Maybe we should take him back to the vet? Getting him in the cat carrier last time cost Seth some skin and a lot of blood. I don't know if it's worth traumatizing Charlie for some sneezes. But sheesh, he can't be happy with all the sneezes. And I'm getting tired of having cat snot blown all over me.
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Seth and Karen

back from Philly

We are back from Philadelphia and it's good to be home (despite the tower of dishes that awaited us, which I've managed to get mostly under control). I'm so glad that we went. There had to have been about 500 people at this funeral, which is unbelievable to me. It speaks volumes about Jay and the way he lived his life. I can't imagine being so thought of when my time comes, may it be many years in the future.

More importantly, I'm glad that we stayed a few days. I think it was more meaningful that we were able to spend some time with Joy Friday than having been there on Thursday. And it meant a lot to us as well.

The bonus is that the grocery store (a normal grocery store!) near our hotel was apparently THE grocery store to go to for kosher food. If i'd realized, I wouldn't have bothered bringing so much food with us! It was unbelievable that they had such a selection. I managed to make a nice shabbos despite being on the road. I think I make a nice shabbos away from home. I brought a chicken, some pasta salad, cucumber salad, and a few sundry things. We bought green salad makings and psujedi and caryabend brough us challah (which I hadn't been able to grab before we left Maryland). Obviously, I also brought wine and candles and such. Jo and Cary stuck around long enough to make kiddush with us and to have a quick bite to eat (but just some nibbles since they were going to Cary's parents' for dinner), which was nice. It was just like being home, only different. ;) Saturday we shifted all of our belongings into Jo and Cary's room (which was right next to ours) and hung out there for the day while they were doing various family things so that we wouldn't have to pay for an extra day in the hotel. After shabbos, we packed up the car, made another quick stop at the grocery store, and headed back to the shiva house to say a quick goodbye to Joy. Then we stopped by Cary's parents' house to say a quick hello and we were on our way home. We got home around 11:30 and Seth fell right into bed and I stayed up for a bit (okay, a long bit) and read and started some chicken salad (but then realized I had no mayonaisse). I slept in until about 9:30 and I'm still in my pajamas, which is fantabulous. I'm babysitting for jeannegrrl and Hillel tonight and I expect that I'll probably stay in my pajamas until I leave for their place. ;)

I was supposed to go to Brookly with leahmiriam today, but she is feeling icky, so we didn't go, which is probably a good thing, since I was up until 3am, and the weekend has already been pretty draining for me. Gives me a day to relax and do dishes before walking back into the minefield that is my office tomorrow (I'm not being is actually going quite well right now and I'm involved in some exciting projects, so I really have nothing to complain about...I'm even up for a promotion). Plus, it meant I was available to babysit for Jeanne and Hillel, so it's good for them too. ;) Lauren and I will re-schedule our trip. Last I checked, Brooklyn is still likely to be there after Pesach, so it'll keep.

Seth and I are starting Southbeach, like it or not. We were supposed to start last Monday, but between being inundated with food leftover from Purim (a Jewish Holiday we celebrated last Sunday) and news of the upcoming funeral, it got put off. But we can't continue to find reasons to put it off. We just have to do it. So here we go! Wheeee!

For the trip, I bought a car adapter that I could plug my computer into and I watched DVDs on the way up and back. it's a great way to have a road-trip, I've decided. Philly isn't that far, but it was still nice to have it. Many thanks to bodnej for the loan of his noise-cancelling headphones and The Emperor's New Groove DVD (well, the DVD belongs to Mrs. Bodnej).

I hope all is well with everyone else. Everyone should think happy thoughts for caryabend tomorrow as he has an interview! Yay for Cary!
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Family May 2012

addendum to my Philly Post (read at your own risk...the F word is in this post!)

I forgot to mention a few notable things from Thursday.

After the funeral and internment, Seth and I went with a few of his Fraternity friends to a diner where they had lunch (and we had sodas, but we'd already eaten sandwiches in the car) so that they could catch up and so that we could let some of the chaos at the house calm down before we got there (it was still a zoo and apparently good that we waited), and it was nice to spend some time with them.

We spent a few hours at the shiva house and decided to leave around 5, check into the hotel, and then go into town for dinner. There's a kosher vegetarian Chinese restuarant in Chinatown that specializes in disguising food as meat when really it's wheat gluten or soy or some such concoction. It was very, very tasty. Jay and Joy had taken Seth there back in October when Seth had been in Philadelphia for a training session, and I'm glad I got to try it out.

When we left, Seth was planning to drop me at the hotel and then head to Joy's for a bit but we got off 95 the wrong direction (one thing I won't miss about Philly is lousy street signs), which was fine because it put us in the direction toward Joy's house, so we just decided to go straight there. However, about halfway there, we were coming up to a red light, so Seth came to a stop most of a car length behind a full sized Dodge Ram Van. And then the idiot put on his reverse lights and started reversing into us for no good reason. Seth blasted his horn the entire time, but couldn't reverse himself because: 1. there really wasn't enough time, 2. he was holding down the brake and afraid to let go, and 3. He was afraid of hitting someone behind us. Plenty of people saw it happen, but no one stopped. The guy got out of his van looked at the touching bumpers and started yelling at Seth for hitting him, claiming that there was no reason he would have backed up (well, duh) in a one-way (there was a median, so there was really nowhere for him to go!). We called the police. Seth stood in front of his van until the police got there so that the guy wouldn't drive away. The guy kept coming VERY close to me and yelling at me and I finally told him to get the fuck away from me and I went into the car and called Jo and Cary to bitch about this moron. Eventually the cop got there. The cop, of course, basically told Seth that he was full of shit and that it didn't make any sense that the van would reverse and that the insurance company would never believe us. I don't care. We wanted a report filed. We wanted it on record that we were disputing it. There's no apparent damage to Seth's car, which is good, but the bumper of the van was bent in, which I'm not entirely sure happened as a result of that accident (his bumper was steel... there was NO apparent damage to our car...I don't see it). Joy actually believes it might have been a scam and that he did it on purpose (maybe a coverup for some damage he did before?

Whatever. It'll probably be a "no-fault" situation and both of our insurance rates will go up and I still don't care because I wanted to make sure it was on record with the other driver's insurance company. Maybe if he gets "rear-ended" enough times, they'll catch on.

The downside was that Seth didn't have his registration card with him, so he almost got a hundred dollar ticket for not having it, but the cop let him off for that, which was the only non-schmuck thing that he did while on the scene. I have half a mind to file a complaint against him for his behaviour. But I probably won't. By the way, I think it's completely assinine that you have to carry a registration card with you. The license plate has current stickers on it, and when the registration expires, so does the license plate, so it ought to be obvious that the car is registered. And if the registration had been suspended, that wouldn't be immediately apparent with a registration card either. So it's stupid. Probably the cop didn't give him a ticket because he ran the plates and the names and addresses matched. Again, whatever. I'm just glad he didn't give us a ticket. Even if he had, it would have been worth it.

We didn't end up going back to Joy's because it was after 9 when we left the scene. We went back to the hotel and Seth called the insurance company while I went to the grocery store for salad stuff and sundry other things. When I got back, we went down to the hotel bar for a stiff drink (okay, I had a girlie drink, but Seth had whiskey). The drinks were incredibly expensive, but the bartender was also incredibly generous, so it was still worth it. (still, I'm glad we only had one round!)

Fortunately, the accident didn't ruin our trip, and will hopefully make for an amusing 10 years or so, but probably not before that!

I should add that caryabend and psujedi probably already have amusing stories from this episode because I called them ranting and raving and dropping the F-bomb more times in one breath than I've probably used in the last 5 years combined. Heh. But at least it was a little cathartic for moi. ;-)
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Family May 2012


A friend lent me a book called PCOS: The Hidden Epidemic and told me that it was a must read for me and that it was the first book that she'd read that made her realize that she wasn't a complete freak. Now, arguably, she and I are both freaks for completely different reasons, but having read just a few sections here and there, I realize what she's saying.

Polycistystic Ovary Syndrome affects a very large percentage of women, but it's a highly under-diagnosed syndrome. It took a long time for me to get diagnosed, though I had all of the classic signs, and I've only just found a doctor who's taking me seriously, though I've probably had outward signs since I was 14 or 15.

This book is making me realize how very insecure I've been about certain things, but more importantly, it's helping me to realize that it's not just me. It's not my fault. And I'm not a freak (at least not for THESE reasons).

And that's after reading a total of maybe 5 pages in a 400+ page book.
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