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estherchaya
estherchaya
single parenthood
I have been a "single" parent now for approximately 30 hours. So help me G-d, if Seth ever leaves me, he's taking the (theoretical) children with him. I will beat him if his plane is late on Thursday.


P.S. You people really shouldn't take me so seriously. Julian is a joy and has been behaving really well for me. But just organizing myself this morning was hell. HE was asleep. But I had to organize myself AND all his stuff, and since he was asleep, it wasn't the usual routine of getting him up, getting his diaper changed, getting him fed and putting clothes on him. No, it was collecting breakfast food and clothes for him to change into once I dropped him off with the nanny, and getting MYSELF pulled together, and finding spare diapers to put in the diaper bag because I was too stupid to do that last night, and uh, all sorts of other stupid stuff. THEN I went in to wake him up (WTF was he doing asleep at 7:30?????) to take him out to the car only to discover that his diaper had somehow come undone in the night and he was soaking wet. So the baby that I picked up out of bed without waking (what is wrong with him???) got woken up so I could change his diaper and his pajamas. Actually, he STILL didn't really wake up (whose child is this??? Definitely not MINE!) until the cold air outside hit him. Even then, he was pretty darned sleepy.

And now the trouble is figuring out how I'm going to get home, get to Lisbon's to pick up a new kiddush cup seeing as how I BROKE ours last night, have dinner with Lauren, get him home, bathed, diapered, pajama'd and into bed by the time the babysitter gets there so that I can then go out for mikveh duty and stand in a hot, muggy, steamy room for several hours. Oh joy. THEN I get to come home and figure out how to do a load of laundry or three before bedtime. And then I get to start all over tomorrow morning, hopefully without the diaper disaster.

I have a seriously new-found respect for my single-parent friends.

Current Mood: exhausted exhausted

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From: cecerose Date: December 6th, 2004 08:15 am (UTC) (Link)

You said it...

I have a seriously new-found respect for my single-parent friends.

Heck,I have problems just taking care of my cat.

p.s. We know you're kidding. If any parent doesn't admit they haven't felt that way one time or other, I'd say they were clinically INSANE...
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: December 6th, 2004 09:16 am (UTC) (Link)

Re: You said it...

oh good. Well, I just don't want someone coming back to me later and saying, "But you SAID he could take the kids!" I mean, really, it's not going to be an issue, but still. A few people don't always "get" my humour and take me far too seriously when they shouldn't.
From: gittygiggles Date: December 6th, 2004 10:15 am (UTC) (Link)

Re: You said it...

yeah i hate it when people actually take me seriously. what is WRONG with them!?
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From: gittygiggles Date: December 6th, 2004 06:06 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: You said it...

what did she throw at you??
From: have_inner_lady Date: December 6th, 2004 08:45 am (UTC) (Link)
love your job and the break it affords you
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: December 6th, 2004 09:15 am (UTC) (Link)
Oh believe me, I do!
From: gingy Date: December 6th, 2004 09:08 am (UTC) (Link)
I have a seriously new-found respect for my single-parent friends.
It's really not all that hard, once you get used to it.
By the way, does Julian use a sippy cup? And feed himself?
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: December 6th, 2004 09:15 am (UTC) (Link)
yeah, I figured that if I did it all the time, I'd find a routine that worked for me. But damn this is not easy! I can't even figure out how to go to the dry cleaner!

Yes, he does use a sippy cup. But he still takes a bottle at night and at naptime. And the nanny tends to give in and give him a bottle during the day, which is, um, making things a little harder. So now I'm trying to get her to back off a little on the bottles and try a sippy cup first (if he doesn't know the bottle is an option, he'll usually take the sippy cup happily and without complaint).

And he does largely feed himself. Though sometimes he needs a little help. But last night he ate pasta, crackers, cheese, and apple pieces...all things he can eat without assistance. In the morning we give him a yogurt. Although he's capable of "feeding" himself yogurt (which is to say, get it all over the place), for the sake of time, we tend to give him one spoon to play with (and let him try to feed himself), but with the other spoon, we're shoveling it into his mouth.
From: gingy Date: December 6th, 2004 09:17 am (UTC) (Link)
Do you need a hand, and I'd sorta like to pick up my pampered chef stuff. When are you home, and perhaps the boys and I can make a trek south.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: December 6th, 2004 09:22 am (UTC) (Link)
Don't really need a hand, actually. I've got help coming out the wazoo. It's the morning organizing that's killing me. I did a lot of organizing for the day last night, but then when this kid SLEPT past 7, it threw everything off and I needed different things than I expected to need.

tonight I'm not home. Tomorrow someone is bringing me dinner, so that's out. Wednesday my dad's coming. Thursday's a possibility. I'm home probably by 4:30 on Thursday. If that doesn't work, I can maybe come up there Sunday, but I've got to see, because the grandparents are coming Sunday sometime. But this time I'm going to TELL THEM when they can come and let them take it or leave it. So maybe that morning I'll be able to go up there. Honestly, if I'd been able to get out yesterday, I was planning to call you so I could drop your stuff by. At this point I should pop it in the mail. Sigh. I'm sorry.
From: gingy Date: December 6th, 2004 09:25 am (UTC) (Link)
Thursday will work for us, if it's good for you.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: December 6th, 2004 10:15 am (UTC) (Link)
Dammit. Julian's mother is coming at 4:15 on Thursday.

Anyway, that doesn't mean you can't come. It just means she'll be there. Only thing going on for me Thursday other than an 8pm appointment, Julian's mother coming, and Seth coming home is shabbos cooking, which wasn't going to happen until after my 8pm appointment anyway.

So, right. Feel free to join our insanity!
From: gingy Date: December 6th, 2004 11:20 am (UTC) (Link)
Sounds too busy for us. That's fine, we can make it another time. Or, Seth could always bring the stuff up here to work with him, and I'd have a reason to go in and show off the baby.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: December 6th, 2004 11:31 am (UTC) (Link)
Yeah, I'm sorry, right after I posted to you that Thursday would work fine, Julian's mother called. I can't deny her coming, and Thursday was the ONLY day I could make work. But I'm definitely trying not to ruffle any feathers until after the guardianship hearing.

This is how my life has been lately...catering to everyone else's schedule. I gotta tell you, it's starting to piss me off. Grr.

Okay, I'll probably have Seth bring the stuff to work. When is good for you? He'll be back at work Friday, but he's staffing, so he's useless Friday. I believe he's administrative all next week, but I could be wrong.
From: gingy Date: December 6th, 2004 11:33 am (UTC) (Link)
Whenever. It's not that difficult to coordinate a drive downtown.
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estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: December 6th, 2004 11:37 am (UTC) (Link)
lemme think about that.

NO.

Did he pay you to suggest that?
From: gittygiggles Date: December 6th, 2004 10:14 am (UTC) (Link)
how did you break a kiddush cup? a silver one!?

i wish i could help. what are you doing tomorrow? need some help??? i'm sure asher and julian would get a kick out of eachother :)

and yes i can't imagine being a single mom. it's hard enough with a dad in the picture.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: December 6th, 2004 10:16 am (UTC) (Link)
no, it was a lenox cup... ceramic, not silver.

Tomorrow I'm working all day and then friends are bringing me dinner since it's Chanukah and Seth won't be home. But you are so sweet! I appreciate it. We'll figure something out soon, I promise!
From: gittygiggles Date: December 6th, 2004 10:39 am (UTC) (Link)
oh my gosh! tomorrow is hanukah! AAAAAAAAAH! that's wild! it makes me want to cry.

then again, i can't talk. i saw the mpt advertisment begging for money and taht made me cry too. you should just call me esti, sort for estrogen.....

anywho...if you're getting tired of julian dont hesitate. asher and i will come down and amuse him. asher LOVES other kids and loves cats even more. so i'm sure it'll be a hootin good time!
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: December 6th, 2004 10:41 am (UTC) (Link)
don't you have a husband to feed and spend time with?
From: gittygiggles Date: December 6th, 2004 10:47 am (UTC) (Link)
have a what? a who? oh yeah...you mean that guy who sleeps in my bed???? mr homework? mr schoolwork?

i told him that if he's going to be busy doing schoolwork, i'm going to be busy too. it's not fair that i put my entire life on hold so i can spend time with him...and he's not even able to spend time with me.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: December 6th, 2004 11:45 am (UTC) (Link)
Good for you!
From: gittygiggles Date: December 6th, 2004 12:45 pm (UTC) (Link)
thanks :) so let me know if you're available :)
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