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teshuva, tzedekah, and tefila
I start my story by looking back two years to Succos, the Festival of the Tabernacles. One of the commandments on Succos is to shake a lulav and an esrog in a prescribed fashion. The lulav is made up of palm, willow and myrtle branches, and the esrog is a citron (it looks like a wrinkled, overgrown lemon. It also makes me sneeze uncontrollably...). We hold the esrog and the lulav branches together and shake them in the directions of each of the four winds, upward and, finally, downward.
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I start my story by looking back two years to Succos, the Festival of the Tabernacles. One of the commandments on Succos is to shake a lulav and an esrog in a prescribed fashion. The lulav is made up of palm, willow and myrtle branches, and the esrog is a citron (it looks like a wrinkled, overgrown lemon. It also makes me sneeze uncontrollably...). We hold the esrog and the lulav branches together and shake them in the directions of each of the four winds, upward and, finally, downward. <a href="http://www.chabad.org>Chabad.org</a> explains that although the mitzvah of lulav and esrog should be preformed in order to fulfill the will of Hashem, there is special significance that we can find in the mitzvah, most notably that the Four Kinds (citron, palm, willow, and myrtle) represent the unity of all Jews. For more information on this, please see <a href="http://www.chabad.org/holidays/JewishNewYear/template.asp?AID=4584>the Chabad.org article on succos</a>
Anyway...
Two years ago in shul, after parading around the shul with the Four Kinds (sometimes called the Four Species), Hillel turned to me and said, "This has got to be the weirdest thing Jews do. Imagine being a stranger walking by and seeing THIS!" Yes, I agreed, it's a pretty strange looking ritual. If you don't know what it's all about, you'd think "Those Jews are NUTS!" Well, we are. But that's not the weirdest thing. The weirdest thing is kaparos. <lj-cut>
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My day started by waking at 5 (thanks <lj user="sethcohen">. Well, okay, I rolled out of bed at 5, but got right back in and got out at 5:30. I drove in the pitch black morning to Baltimore to pick up <lj user="beaniekins"> and we went to a back parking lot filled with Jews and chickens. Chickens? Yes, chickens. Okay, so now you're dying to know what I'm talking about (if you don't already), so I'll tell you, because I don't want any of my readers dying on MY account.
Every year, immediately before Yom Kippur, the ritual of Kaparos is observed (by Orthodox Jews, anyway....other movements vary).
Kaparos is a ritual in which you symbolically transfer your sins to a chicken (poor sucker) and while you're saying a special prayer, you wave (GENTLY) the chicken over your head three times. The chicken is then slaughtered and given to the poor. As the Artscroll Machzor says, the ritual is designed to imbue Jews with the feeling that their very lives are at stake as Yom Kippur draws near, and that they must repent and seek atonement. the slaughter of the chicken symbolizes the concept that a sinner deserves to give up his soul for not having used it according to Hashem's will (but the chicken very noblely gives its own life in exchange for our own). The fact that the chicken is given to the needy fulfills a very important aspect of repentance: charity. Atonement for one's sins must contain three elements: teshuva (repentance), tzedekah (charity) and tefila (prayer). This mitzvah embodies all three. The ritual can also be performed with money, which is later donated to charity.
When I first heard about the ritual, I figured no one actually uses live chickens anymore. I mean, how could they? It seems so antiquated, so primal, so, well...so disgusting and downright crazy! And we Jews are a sensible people, are we not? Well, apparently we are not. Because live chickens it is! I couldn't quite bring myself to go last year, so I used money. Using money is a perfectly acceptable way to perform Kaparos, but (apparently), the ideal is to use a chicken. Still, I was horrified. No matter how much Bea tried to mollify me and assure me that no harm is done to the chicken, I just couldn't imagine it. But, curiosity got the best of me, and I agreed to go with her this year, <i>provided that I wasn't going to be forced to partake</i>. I wanted to ensure that I could make up my mind <i>after</i> I'd seen what exactly was going to happen.
So, at 5:45, I embarked on my journey to Pikesville to swing some chickens. I must pause to point out that although we say we're swinging chickens over our heads, that's really not happening that way. It's not like we grab the poor thing by the feet and swing away like a lasso, and we're not whirling it, and we're not trying to throw it or anything. The chicken is grasped gently from beneath its wings and gently waved in a circular motion over your head. Cruelty to animals is strictly prohibited in Judaism. If we were to harm the bird in anyway or allow it to injure itself, it wouldn't be kosher. So please understand that this wasn't meant to cause pain to the chicken.
On my drive to Pikesville, I tried to keep an open mind and really consider what the ritual meant to me. Do I really believe that the chicken takes on my sins? I don't know. I honestly wish that I could say yes to that. Do I believe the chicken is doing a mitzvah for me? In a way, yes, but I still feel bad about sending a chicken to its demise. Frankly, throughout the ritual, I tried not to think about the fact that the very chicken before me was going to die. Truth is, chickens die every day. I eat them. Shouldn't I have to face what I'm doing? That aside, a mitzvah isn't done because we like or dislike it, though hopefully we find some joy in every mitzvah. Rather, a mitzvah is done because it is according to Hashem's will. We are meant to find the strength to perform even the most unpleasant of mitzvot.
If I chose not to do this mitzvah because I'm not completely sure the chicken really takes on my sins and gives up its life for me, I'd have to re-think every mitzvah I do on the same basis. I learned to do mitzvahs first and then find the beauty in them. If I always waited for the beauty, I'd still be eating bacon.
When we arrived, there were dozens of people, and I could hear a quiet, but constant clucking of chickens. I didn't hear any screeching. I didn't hear any squawking, really. And the chickens weren't flapping to get away. They weren't struggling. They were surprisingly docile, though I do understand that chickens are pretty stupid, so maybe they just thought they were out for a good time. A very nice man assisted Bea and I with the ritual so that we wouldn't have to touch the chickens (I'm not that far gone yet). After Bea had finished, I reached for her Machzor, knowing there was no going back. But I was ready to do it. The man asked if I'd like to hold my own chicken and I accidentally blurted, "Oh please, NO!" I'm pretty sure I had a terrified expression on my face. I think I'd have cried if I'd had to hold the chicken. But 5 minutes later, I was done.
I'm not sure what I got out of it, but I'm pleased to have tried it. I'm pleased that I was willing to have a new experience. Will I go back next year? Probably, but no promises. The truth is, I think it was important to be faced with a very real example of the frailty and absolute value of a life. Even if it was the chicken's life. It could have been mine. Yes, I was responsible for that chicken dying. But I'm also responsible for chickens dying every time I buy one from the butcher, but we shield ourselves from that reality and try not to think about it. I know that the chicken did a mitzvah, and I know that someone needy will benefit from my willingness to try something new today.
On my way home, I called Seth and said, "that is decidedly the most bizarre mitzvah Jews do." I expected him to make a smart-alek remark, but he said, "well, you're going to go through with it, aren't you?" I was somehow surprised that was his reaction. I thought he had a revulsion for the ritual, but he seemed proud of me for trying it (I'm sure he'll correct me if I'm wrong). I know that most of my readership now thinks I'm completely off my rocker. And I know that most of my readership already thought that. I wouldn't be surprised if this post upsets some people and offends others. It should. You shouldn't look at this ritual and think "wow that's really neat!"... you should think of the ritual and really comprehend the concept of teshuva, of life, and living life to the best of your potential.
I know that I didn't live up to my potential in the last year. I know that I could have performed more mitzvot, and transgressed fewer mitzvot. I am growing closer to my potential every day. I have my good days and my bad, but more and more, I'm spending time focusing on how I can improve my relationship with Hashem and my relationships with other people. I pray every day for the betterment of the world. I pray every day for Moshiach. I pray every day to be a better wife, a better friend, a better employee and a better person. I pray that tomorrow is better than today, and the day after tomorrow better still.

In the end, I think I'm moving in the right direction. Even if I <i>am</i> nuts for swinging a chicken over my head.

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cellio From: cellio Date: October 5th, 2003 02:22 pm (UTC) (Link)
That was beautifully written. Thank you.

I've never done kaparot with a chicken; I use money for the tzedakah component. I, too, am uncomfortable with the idea of somehow transferring my sin to an animal and then killing it. (It's not that I'm squicked by the idea of killing food animals; I eat them, after all. And I'm not so naive as to believe that styrofoam is the natural habitation for meat.)

Your description makes it sound, while weird, also fulfilling in an odd sort of way. Perhaps next year I'll try to find the locals who do this. (I assume they exist. I don't know how to connect with them.)

Tzom kal!
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: October 6th, 2003 08:43 pm (UTC) (Link)
That was beautifully written. Thank you.
No, thank you. I'm always happy to take compliments. ;-)

It was an oddly fulfilling experience. I'm still squidged by it. And I won't claim to think that it isn't nuts, because it's significantly high on the weird meter, but still it was an experience.

Plus, I got to see the sun rise. Bonus.
From: bodnej Date: October 6th, 2003 06:50 pm (UTC) (Link)
Personally, I think Kaporot with a chicken is nuts. My grandfather used to do Kaporot for my brother and me with coins in a handkerchief and then gave the money to charity.

I know that part of the motivation is that you feed the poor with the chicken. So Laura and I brought two bags of groceries to Kol Nidre services, and we gave livestock via Heifer International.

Different strokes for different folks, I guess.
cellio From: cellio Date: October 6th, 2003 08:37 pm (UTC) (Link)
We also have a food drive during the HHD season (runs through Sukkot and then we'll box it up and take it to the food pantry). I hadn't thought to tie it to kaporot before, but that's a good observation.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: October 6th, 2003 08:40 pm (UTC) (Link)
it isn't tied in with kaparos per se. It's part of the whole season because tzedekah should always be part of your teshuva. Certainly extra tzedekah doesn't take the place of the ritual of kaparos. Food drives and other such charity movements are extremely important, but they are separate.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: October 6th, 2003 08:40 pm (UTC) (Link)
yes, that is part of the motivation. And yes, we donate food to the needy this time of year. But there are other aspects to Kaparos that I'm not going to argue with you. You and I have already talked about this extensively, and neither of us is going to change our minds.
fheyd From: fheyd Date: October 6th, 2003 09:52 pm (UTC) (Link)
not that the opinion of an uninitiated amounts to much, but i think if you're going to get so much from the experience involving the chicken then you should have to handle the chicken itself (except for killing it, leave that to the pros). somehow the notion of waving your own chicken around to transfer your sins into it doesn't bother me, but letting some guy do everything but the words for you doesn't sit right with me. if you're not going to do it yourself, what's the point in going? wouldn't sitting at home thinking of a guy waving around a chicken while you say and think whatever accomplish the same thing?

it's a chicken, can't hurt ya if you hold it right - not like it's a pigeon or a poisonous snake or armadillo or something.

sorry if this upsets anyone, but it's a thought that i felt needed to be expressed.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: October 7th, 2003 04:53 am (UTC) (Link)
Doesn't upset me at all. In fact, I burst out laughing when I read your comment. When I first saw that you'd commented, I was worried. It would have been the first non-Jewish response I'd heard and I was expecting, "You crazy weirdo! Why are we friends again?" But no. I forgot you were from Mississippi! That's what I love about you, dah-link... you are so practical.

The reason I didn't hold the chicken wasn't that I thought it was icky. It was that I was concerned about harming it. If I had injured it, not only would I have felt bad about it, it wouldn't have been kosher.

As for counting if someone else does the waving... parents do it for their children, husbands for their wives, etc. It's not uncommon. I'll have to search around for you, though, to find out why you don't have to do it yourself.
fheyd From: fheyd Date: October 7th, 2003 09:41 pm (UTC) (Link)
just so ya know, holding a chicken without hurting it isn't a problem. just hold gently but firmly with one hand behind each wing, kinda pushing the wings forward a bit so they can't flap all over the place. you'd also want to hold it a bit away from you because they can scratch when upset, but generally if you hold it for a minute or two it'll settle down. just incase you ever want to do it yourself ;)

as for me thinking the whole thing is weird, well, when you get right down to it most religious acts are weird - no matter the religion. besides, i kind of like the symbolic elements of many religious rituals - it helps people focus on what they're doing with more of their senses, often adding more meaning to the process.

lastly, i must admit that i often read your journal and wonder what in the world you're talking about, but as luck/fate would have it my neighbor friend is Jewish (although not orthodox) and she's good about giving me enough basic clues that i come back and understand things a bit better. like in this case, she wasn't familiar with the whole chicken bit, but she knew what it was generally about and explained how she did something similar by throwing stones in a river. now i can fill her in about the chickens and we'll both know something new, so life is good :)

i love learning about all this kinda stuff, i just rarely fine time to do it. well that and i have to make sure i don't dedicate any brain cells to it that currently hold bar information - just incase i need it again.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: October 8th, 2003 07:08 am (UTC) (Link)
yep, that's exactly how they held the chickens. Scary that you know this off-hand. ;-) Well, at least I know. Maybe next year I'll hold the chicken.

I never know how much explanation to put into my journal entries, so I sort of assume people will ask me if they don't know what I'm talking about. I'm more than happy to explain anything that isn't clear. That said, I will attempt to put more explanation in my entries (though I will say in my defense that this was one post in which I gave a fair amount of background).

I think what your neighbor is thinking of, actually, is Tashlich, which is done on Rosh Hashana. Usually it's done with bread and crumbs are thrown into a moving body of water, preferably with fish in it. It is symbolic of casting your sins off into the water and comes from the words of the prophet, Micah: " …and you shall throw into the depth of the sea all their sins…" Of course, casting breadcrumbs into the water will not eradicate our sins. But it does remind us that it is the time to give our heart a thorough cleaning and rid it of all evil. It's similar in principle, but it's a different ritual.

When do you get your bar results? Soon, no?
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