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LJ is a very strange place. I say more about my inner-thoughts on LJ than I do to most people in-person. Which, by the way, is ridiculous, but somehow I keep doing it anyway. But there are a fair number of you I've never met. So I feel all geeky and weird about the fact that I have these people in my life who on most levels I would consider close friends, but they're "just" online-friends.

And then sometimes, one of those friends disappears without a trace. It makes me sad and worries me. And I feel like I've been punched in the gut. And this is still ridiciulous, because seriously... I've never met half of you (though many of you I have some real-life connection to, such as knowing your spouse in RL).

But I think about you guys, and I care about you guys, and I don't care if it makes me a complete and utter freak. So if you've disappeared recently and you're reading this anyway... please know that I'm sad that you're gone. I'm a better person for having "met" you. :(

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magid From: magid Date: July 5th, 2005 06:25 pm (UTC) (Link)
I've been concerned about someone who's gone away, too.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: July 5th, 2005 06:35 pm (UTC) (Link)
do you know when her journal was deleted? I only noticed it last night, but I'd been away from LJ for a while.
magid From: magid Date: July 5th, 2005 06:41 pm (UTC) (Link)
Sometime in the middle of last week. I want to say Wednesday, but I'm not totally sure.
From: gittygiggles Date: July 5th, 2005 08:07 pm (UTC) (Link)
i think it was thursday....
kressel From: kressel Date: July 6th, 2005 04:05 pm (UTC) (Link)



I've actually been feeling that it was my fault. Last week, she and I were doing rapid-fire responses on my journal, and the next day, I checked my flist, only to find her name crossed out and her journal deleted. Perhaps because I'm in Monsey (not her town, but fairly close), and because my journal is public, she was afraid that someone would figure out her real identity. In the Chareidi world in which she and I live, using the Internet is frowned upon.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: July 6th, 2005 04:18 pm (UTC) (Link)
no doubt that was not the cause. If she'd been worried about her identity being revealed in your journal, she would have taken it to her journal, or to email. She did that with me once... emailed me rather than continuing a line of discussion in my journal that could conceivably have given some hints as to who she is.
kressel From: kressel Date: July 6th, 2005 04:27 pm (UTC) (Link)



It still feels weird, though. I think I must have been the last lj person she "talked to."
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: July 6th, 2005 04:56 pm (UTC) (Link)
not necessarily, plus there was nothing in those comments that raises any red flags. I'm sure it had nothing to do with you. There must be something else going on. I'm going to send her a snail-mail.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: July 6th, 2005 05:05 pm (UTC) (Link)
she commented below. It had nothing to do with you. Worry not.
kressel From: kressel Date: July 6th, 2005 05:25 pm (UTC) (Link)



Thanks for the heads-up! What a weird thing to have happened to her, though!
From: gittygiggles Date: July 6th, 2005 05:04 pm (UTC) (Link)
it is SO not your fault! dont think like that!!!! monsey isn't that close to her town. and i seriously doubt people would have figured out who she is. in fact, i'm tempted to snail mail her a letter b/c i know who she is. if she's in the white pages that is :)

how is chareidi different from orthodox then? and why on earth is the internet frowned on??
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: July 6th, 2005 05:05 pm (UTC) (Link)
I've got her snail mail address, but it's not necessary. She commented below and sent me an email. She's okay. And I was right; it wasn't kressel's fault.
From: gittygiggles Date: July 6th, 2005 05:08 pm (UTC) (Link)
what happened??????
From: (Anonymous) Date: July 6th, 2005 05:13 pm (UTC) (Link)
It's me. I tried to email you but I forgot your email address. Can I get it again? I'm fine. Really.
From: gittygiggles Date: July 6th, 2005 05:13 pm (UTC) (Link)
me at yahoo. :) i miss you!
kressel From: kressel Date: July 6th, 2005 05:24 pm (UTC) (Link)



Monsey, Brooklyn, and Lakewood are the three largest frum communities in the States, and EVERYBODY usually knows several people in each town.

Chareidi means Ultra-Orthodox or black hat, and the Internet is frowned upon because there are so many opportunities to go to treyfe sites.
From: gittygiggles Date: July 6th, 2005 05:33 pm (UTC) (Link)
karen, help me out here. what shul here is chareidi? i know what it means in israel...but not in america.

i actuallyy know NO ONE in monsey (except you i suppose!) and only mamadeb in brooklyn and only her from lakewood. i know someone who moved to lakewood when seh got married...but i am seriously isolated :)
kressel From: kressel Date: July 7th, 2005 03:21 am (UTC) (Link)



I think I'm using the term "chareidi" the same way it's used in Israel. It denotes the "black hat" style of Judaism. Ner Yisroel in Baltimore is an example.
From: gittygiggles Date: July 5th, 2005 08:04 pm (UTC) (Link)
i'm the same way. i miss her :(

but i do feel kjinda geeky and loserish for having online friendsa
ichur72 From: ichur72 Date: July 5th, 2005 09:42 pm (UTC) (Link)
I just found out today that she deleted her journal. Now I'm sad. :(
From: cecerose Date: July 5th, 2005 10:53 pm (UTC) (Link)

Fellow Freak...

But I think about you guys, and I care about you guys, and I don't care if it makes me a complete and utter freak.

Ditto...
real_bethy From: real_bethy Date: July 6th, 2005 01:47 pm (UTC) (Link)
And I thought I was the only one!
From: (Anonymous) Date: July 6th, 2005 04:58 pm (UTC) (Link)
It's me - the missing one. I'm really sorry I disappeared like that but I kind of freaked out. Some guy, who lives in my community was kind of stalking me and I did something stupid - I emailed him. Of course anonymously but I got really nervous he would figure out who I was. So I did a clean sweep and deleted everything. Maybe I'll come back some day, but not now. If you need anything (shaitel?) I will send you my new email address.

All the best.
magid From: magid Date: July 6th, 2005 05:24 pm (UTC) (Link)
I hope everything works out ok...
From: (Anonymous) Date: July 6th, 2005 09:12 pm (UTC) (Link)
Thanks. It's really a non-issue right now. i just want to stay away so I can stay away from his type of person.
kressel From: kressel Date: July 6th, 2005 05:35 pm (UTC) (Link)



Just as long as you're all right!
From: (Anonymous) Date: July 6th, 2005 09:13 pm (UTC) (Link)
I am so sorry you thought it was because of you!!

I am fine. Baruch Hashem. My worst problem right now is I need a new job!
kressel From: kressel Date: July 7th, 2005 03:29 am (UTC) (Link)



I am so sorry you thought it was because of you!!

Don't worry about that. It's unfortunately the way my slightly paranoid mind works.

Hatzlacha rabba in finding a new job!
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