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estherchaya
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I don't know what's wrong with me. I read a Washington Post article today about a woman who is brain dead, and pregnant. She had cancer that went undetected for too long. She is 26. I literally cried when I read the article. The poor family. Who expects that kind of loss ever, let alone when she was so young.

But there's more.

I also read an article about foster children in Maryland. In particular, the article addressed the problem of gaps in foster children's education when they are moved to new homes. Days, weeks, even months of school are missed as records are transferred from one school to another. It makes me really sad. Seriously! I told you there was something wrong with me. I just don't understand it. I mean, 5 highschools in four years? Kids asking every day "when do I get to go to school?" Why are these kids being shuttled around so much anyway? Granted, I admit that for some of them it's because they have behavioural issues that make it hard for any one family to take them in long term. But I've KNOWN kids in the foster system... they are NOT all behaviourally challenged. Some of them just got stuck in shitty families and need a place to live that's safe for a while.

I know I'm not making sense. But I'm at a loss for what I can do other than take in more foster children, which I simply cannot do right now. But I feel like ordinary people CAN make a difference, if only they knew how. And, unfortunately, I don't know how.

I just wish I could bring all those kids back to my house and take care of them.

Sigh.

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From: gittygiggles Date: June 17th, 2005 06:49 pm (UTC) (Link)
this definitely sounds like a pregnant post :)

i hope i'm right i hope i'm right!
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: June 17th, 2005 06:52 pm (UTC) (Link)
You're not right.
From: gittygiggles Date: June 17th, 2005 06:59 pm (UTC) (Link)
:(
pocketnaomi From: pocketnaomi Date: June 17th, 2005 06:54 pm (UTC) (Link)
The foster care system is, alas, drastically overbooked, and an unfortunate number of the families who volunteer for it are not much better for the kids than the birth familes they couldn't stay with. About ten years ago there was a study that suggested that in Califnornia, the percentge of girls in the foster care system who had been sexually abused while there was very close to 100%. Unfortunately, too often being moved is the best of an extremely bad lot of alternatives. The other problem that gets kids moved a lot os the yo-yo effect -- kids who are sent back to their birth families, then back into foster care (to a different home, of course; the one they left is probably already occupied again) when the birth family fails yet again, then back to the birth family for "one more chance," seven and eight times. Or to foster care, then to a relative, then when that relative proves also unable to care for them, back to care, then to a *different* relative someone has dredged up....

What's starting to help is the brush-clearing tht's been going on over the last several years, terminating parental rights earlier in clearly hopeless cases and accepting non-relative adoption as an equal choice with relative adoption, in cases where there is not an obviously willing close relative. If you're looking for something you can do without being able to take in more kids, help press for laws which make it easier and quicker to get kids out of foster altogether and into permanent adoptive homes.
ichur72 From: ichur72 Date: June 17th, 2005 08:08 pm (UTC) (Link)
What's wrong with you? I vote nothing. Why wouldn't you get upset over this kind of stuff?
kressel From: kressel Date: June 17th, 2005 08:46 pm (UTC) (Link)



Agreed. And you're doing your share by taking in a foster child. May Hashem help that he can stay with you always.
leahmiriam From: leahmiriam Date: June 17th, 2005 09:02 pm (UTC) (Link)
I need to be careful sending you links from the Washington Post online. It can be depressing. I stopped watching the news because I was in a panic most nights.

NOTE: The link I sent was about housing, not foster care!
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