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ramble about.... oh all right, how about Purim?
Apparently, people missed me. Now they're going to be sick of me. Bwah hah hah! Just a few random tidbits:
  • Who was the genius who decided it would be a good idea to have the shul banquet two days after Purim? Like we don't have enough going on in our busy little lives? Oh, wait. I was on the committee that picked the date. Nevermind. Couldn't we just move Purim this year? Oh, that's right, it WAS moved...that whole leap year thing. Right. Okay, so basically, I need to stop complaining about that one.
  • Every year, beckyfeld and Harold have a fabulous Purim Seudah (festive meal). It involves vast quantities of food, singing, drinking, drunken debauchery (okay, not so much of that), and um, general festiveness. This year is more complicated because the Seudah is erev Shabbos, so it has to take place earlier, so that we can all be hungry (okay, sober would be good too) for Shabbos. That prompted some of the regular participants to contemplate having a breakfast/brunch event that was dairy. Now, really, no Feld event is dairy. It's just not done! Anyway, The compromise (because when it comes down to it, this is Harold's seudah, even if other people have taken ownership of it in that they help plan the logisitics...yes it's THAT big) was to have a two part event. Dairy breakfast, meat lunch. Harold firmly believes that a seudas mitzvah should include meat. I'm with him. So what's happening is that oodles of people will flock to Chez Cohen (that's our house) for a dairy breakfast with sangria, mimosas, coffee, and tea. No bread...no washing, no nothin'. At 11:30 we all stumble the two blocks to Chez Feld for the fleishig seudah with the usual oodles of food (though less than last year), singing, drinking etc. At 2:30 or 3 we break, turn over the house for Shabbos and go sleep off the drunkenness. At 6 we'll all meet back for shabbos at Chez Feld. Lunch on Saturday (much smaller crowd) will be at my house. Suffice it to say, Purim (and the subsequent shabbos) will be a busy time for me (and others, of course). So having the banquet two days later... well, sheesh!
  • Unfortunately, I've done very little planning on my shaloch manos. I normally have a list of who we're giving them to, and what I'm putting into the baskets and a schedule of when I'll bake whatever I'm baking to go in the baskets. I believe that this year no such lists will be made, no actual baking will be done, and we're going for simple and sweet. So there. This is just not the year for me to be more creative than that. Isn't it enough that I'll be making waffles and pancakes for heaven knows how many people?
  • So I asked someone, but I'll ask everyone else, too. Do I have to actually deliver shaloch manos to people, or can I give them to people that are at my house? The other possibility is delivering via proxy, which I'm imagining is fine.
  • I also feel that I spend a lot of money on these things every year and usually a lot of man hours (creating packaging, baking, delivering, etc.) which is really technically overkill right? Don't I just have to give two different kinds of ready-to-eat-food to two different people? It's not that I mind doing it. I rather like doing it. It's sort of the Jewish version of sending out Christmas cookies. But it's just that I feel like that money could be better put into charity. Or soup kitchens. Or something... Doesn't it seem a tad materialistic that I go through this? Or am I just overreacting and trying to find excuses out of the work this year.


Okay, so that's the gist. I still have to write a rant about Charlie and the evil S(rest of name omitted). I'll get to it eventually.

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mamadeb From: mamadeb Date: March 10th, 2005 08:41 pm (UTC) (Link)
One of these years, we'll come down to Silver Springs and take part in the festivities. :)

The mitzvah is two different foods to two different people, and you can hand them to your friends as they come in the door. Normal Purim for us - friend comes to do. Take mishloach manot. Hurriedly redistribute other goodies gotten from other people into gift bag and give to friend. I mean, we can't eat the sugary stuff anyway, right? :)
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: March 10th, 2005 08:44 pm (UTC) (Link)
Tee hee, that's smart.

And you should definitely come down. Only problem is the cats. hrm. We'll work something out. Harold and Becky have only one cat and she's only in the house part time (she's indoor-outdoor), so maybe you wouldn't be TOO miserable?
beaniekins From: beaniekins Date: March 10th, 2005 09:14 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm pretty sure there's an opinion that it's better to deliver them by proxy.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: March 10th, 2005 09:17 pm (UTC) (Link)
Honestly, I'm pretty sure the majority will be delivered by proxy. So, um, if SOME of them are delivered personally or by proxy, can the others just be like party favors?

By the way, I haven't been ignoring your posts. I did read them but just haven't had time to come up with comments. Besides we already talked about it. I can't wait for part three, though. :)
magid From: magid Date: March 10th, 2005 09:21 pm (UTC) (Link)
Since the requirement is mishloach manot to one person, I believe you're covered if at least one is delivered by proxy.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: March 10th, 2005 09:22 pm (UTC) (Link)
I thought it was to at least two people?
magid From: magid Date: March 10th, 2005 09:37 pm (UTC) (Link)
Nope. Two foods, one person. ('manot', and 'eesh l'ray'aihu' = his neighbor, not pl.)
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: March 10th, 2005 09:44 pm (UTC) (Link)
huh. well, that's easy.
beaniekins From: beaniekins Date: March 11th, 2005 02:21 am (UTC) (Link)
You have to give tzedakah to two people, shaloch manos, only one.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: March 11th, 2005 02:29 am (UTC) (Link)
Got it.
cellio From: cellio Date: March 11th, 2005 05:18 am (UTC) (Link)
Volunteers from our congregation assemble Purim gift baskets for the kosher food pantry (which then redistributes them). It doesn't relieve one of the individual obligation, but it's a nice idea anyway.
queen_elisheva From: queen_elisheva Date: March 11th, 2005 11:11 am (UTC) (Link)
purim is a week before my weeding....I can't see zev...what a rotten purim. oh well! I'll just spend it at work and with you guys!
queen_elisheva From: queen_elisheva Date: March 11th, 2005 11:15 am (UTC) (Link)
haha weeding! All a part of purim festivities! That's what I get for typing w/o glasses!
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: March 11th, 2005 11:28 am (UTC) (Link)
tee hee. I didn't even see that.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: March 11th, 2005 11:17 am (UTC) (Link)
You are more than welcome to come down here for Purim if you're not allergic to cats.

Anyway...it won't be a rotten Purim; you won't be seeing Zev because you're about to spend the rest of your life with him. What better way to be apart?
From: gittygiggles Date: March 11th, 2005 12:32 pm (UTC) (Link)
i plan on getting drunk off my mind on purim.

of course...i'll probably still be pregnant.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: March 11th, 2005 01:36 pm (UTC) (Link)
Maybe it'll throw you into labor.

(though, not to scare you... sometimes doctors actually RECOMMEND drinking, though not heavily, to stop pre-term contractions)
From: gittygiggles Date: March 11th, 2005 01:40 pm (UTC) (Link)
really? booze stops contractions? good. i wont have any.

BOOZE! WE HAVE NO GRAPE JUICE! AH!
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: March 11th, 2005 03:57 pm (UTC) (Link)
Have hubby pick it up on his way home.
From: lola100 Date: March 11th, 2005 03:35 pm (UTC) (Link)
I usually make about 50 mishloach manos, and deliver them all. But there is a "service" in my neighborhood - a local school (so it's tzedakah really) charges $4.25 for each person on your list you want to send to. The size of the mishloach manos that this person gets depends on how many people wrote him on their list. So person A gets one mishloach manos from this organization and it has the names of all the people who wanted to send to him through this organization. And they deliver it too. Makes things a lot easier (especially on Friday).

So this year I did about 25 of those and I'm sending 25 out, but I made it real easy - a bottle of grape juice with a chocolate bar in a pretty wine bag. Very easy and simple. Good idea for you to use if you have no time.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: March 11th, 2005 03:57 pm (UTC) (Link)
Yeah, a couple of the local schools do those mishloach manos services. And it makes sense. I just have never done it through them, and I didn't think I'd do it this year. Now I'm regretting that slightly. I'm looking at probably 40.
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