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I'm sick, for a change. Don't know yet what's wrong with me. I fear strep throat. I've been exposed to it several times in the last few weeks. My cough never entirely went away, but now I feel worse. I thought I was just getting a bad cold, but my throat hurts and my neck hurts and my head hurts and I'm running a fever. No fun at all.

And my nanny is sick. I had to take her to the ER yesterday. She probably has a pinched nerve in her leg, but she's in a lot of pain and having a very difficult time moving around. Suffice it to say, she's out of commission for at least a week, possibly more. We've got to figure out a solution. And soon. Sigh.

Current Mood: sick miserable

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From: gittygiggles Date: February 1st, 2005 02:35 pm (UTC) (Link)
i wish i could help you karen!!!! i really really do :(
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: February 2nd, 2005 05:56 pm (UTC) (Link)
I know, I appreciate it. You just take care of YOU, okay??
From: gittygiggles Date: February 2nd, 2005 09:45 pm (UTC) (Link)
i'm trying...but i'm hard to take care of.... ;)q
cellio From: cellio Date: February 1st, 2005 03:06 pm (UTC) (Link)
Ouch. I hope everyone's better soon.
leahmiriam From: leahmiriam Date: February 1st, 2005 03:13 pm (UTC) (Link)
You not feeling well, the nanny out of the picture for a while, what are you going to do?
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: February 1st, 2005 03:19 pm (UTC) (Link)
I have no idea.
From: lola100 Date: February 1st, 2005 03:56 pm (UTC) (Link)
Refua Shelaimah!
ichur72 From: ichur72 Date: February 1st, 2005 04:23 pm (UTC) (Link)
*sending feel-better vibes*
eyelid From: eyelid Date: February 1st, 2005 08:04 pm (UTC) (Link)
What's up with this nanny? It seems like you are spending more time taking care of HER than she is taking care of your child.
estherchaya From: estherchaya Date: February 2nd, 2005 05:18 pm (UTC) (Link)
Actually, things have mostly ironed out with our nanny. Most of our stresses from before came from miscommunication. We've set up a notebook for Julian's daily activities and our daily instructions, which works out very well. She seems to respond much better to structured routine than "use your judgment" kinds of instructions. She went a whole week cleaning up his toys every day before she left, but has slacked a bit on that, so we'll remind her again. After talking with the other family she works for (she's been with them 2 years), it's clear that she just needs to really understand how important it is to us and she'll re-prioritize accordingly. This has so far proven to be true.

She didn't ask me to take her to the ER on Monday, I offered, knowing that she didn't have a lot of options. She didn't want to put me out, but I made it work, so it was fine. Also, she was willing to come back today but I told her to take an extra day to recuperate because I'd rather have her here fully recovered than still injured and causing more damage while chasing Julian around. She also hasn't been late since the day I told her that it was too much and that it needed to be a priority. I take it back, she overslept one day but called me frantic. Occasional latenesses don't bother me. They happen to anyone who doesn't have a small child as an alarm clock. It was the habitual latenesses that bothered me, but it's been about a month since that was going on. She's also suddenly gotten much more flexible with her hours in the afternoon. She used to insist that we pick Julian up exactly 8 hours after she started, but I think that she's getting that the big picture is more important. She's offered to keep him later some days since we always let her go early on Fridays, for example. And when I helped her with something in the evening after Julian was asleep, she offered to give Seth and me a Sunday afternoon to go see a movie as thanks for my help. I'll pay her for the time off this week because she never calls out and today I insisted she take off, but in return, I'll get a few extra hours from her later in the month when I'm going to need some flexibility (I'm taking a trip to TX hopefully at the end of the month, for example).

All in all, she's really starting to work out. The other family had warned me that she had about a 3 month learning-curve and we've just hit 3 months and things really are mellowing out. I think part of it was that WE didn't understand our own expectations and therefore couldn't verbalize them, but we'd get frustrated if they weren't met. When it comes down to it, Julian is thriving developmentally (the other mother is a pediatrician and has told me repeatedly that he's really hitting his milestones well), he's very happy with Gina, he's fed, clothed, changed, and loved with her and seems to be getting lots of creative challenges from her also (she sends home "artwork" that he's done...things that I'd never think to do with him at this age).

I'm hoping that these are all signs pointing toward good times ahead.
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